Yes, It's You: The Rapist Checklist
By The Biting Beaver :
THE RAPIST CHECKLIST
Some things to remember…
1. You are a rapist if you get a girl drunk and have sex with her.
2. You are a rapist if you find a drunk girl and have sex with her.
3. You are a rapist if you get yourself drunk and have sex with her. Your drunkeness is no excuse.
4. If you are BOTH drunk you may still be a rapist.
5. If she’s alternating between puking her guts out and passing out in the bed then you’re a rapist.
6. If she’s sleeping and you have sex with her you’re a rapist.
7. If she’s unconscious and you have sex with her then you’re a rapist.
8. If she’s taking sleeping pills and doesn’t wake up when you have sex with her then you’re a rapist.
9. If she is incapacitated in any way and unable to say ‘Yes’ then you’re a rapist.
10. If you drug her then you’re a rapist.
11. If you find a drugged girl and have sex with her then you’re a rapist.
12. If you don’t bother to ask her permission and she says neither ‘Yes’ or ‘No’ then you could be a rapist.
13. You are a rapist if you ‘nag’ her for sex. Because you manage to ply an eventual ‘yes’ from a weary victim doesn’t mean it’s not rape. You are a rapist.
14. You are a rapist if you try to circumvent her “No” by talking her into it. She’s not playing hard to get, and, even if she IS it’s not YOUR responsibility to ‘get’ her. You’re still a rapist.
15. You are a rapist if you manipulate her into sex when she doesn’t otherwise want it. If you say, “If you loved me you’d do X” then you’re a rapist. If you say, “All the other kids are doing it!” then you’re a rapist.
16. If you threaten her, or act in a way that SHE thinks you’re threatening her then you’re a rapist. If you puff up and get loud and frustrated while trying to ‘talk’ her into sex then you’re a rapist.
17. You are a rapist if you don’t immediately get your hands off of her when she says ‘no’. You are a rapist if you take your hands off of her and then put them back ON her after 10 minutes and she eventually ‘gives in’ to this tactic.
18. You are a rapist if you won’t let her sleep peacefully without waking her every 15 minutes asking her for sex. Sleep depravation is a form of torture and YOU are a rapist.
19. If you’re necking with her and you’re naked and you’ve already gone down on her and she says ‘No’ to sex with you and you have sex with her anyway then you’re a rapist.
20. If you’re engaged in intercourse and she says ‘No’ at ANY point and you don’t immediately stop then you’re a rapist.
21. If she said “Yes” to sex with a condom and that condom breaks and you proceed anyway then you’re a rapist.
22. If she picked you up at a bar looking for sex and then decides that she doesn’t WANT sex and you continue then you’re a rapist.
23. If she changes her mind at ANY point for ANY reason and you don’t immediately back off or you try to talk her into it and get sex anyway then you’re a rapist.
24. If you don’t hit her and she says ‘No’ you’re still a rapist.
25. If you don’t have a knife or a gun or a garrote and she says ‘No’ then you’re still a rapist.
26. If you’re a friend of hers you can still be a rapist.
27. If you had sex with her the night before but she doesn’t want morning sex and you pressure her for it anyway then you’re a rapist.
28. If you’re her husband you can still be a rapist.
29. If it’s your wedding night and she doesn’t WANT to have sex with you and you force or coerce her anyway then you’re a rapist.
30. If she’s had sex with you hundreds of times before but doesn’t want to on the 101st time then you’re a rapist.
31. If you penetrate her anally, orally or digitally against her will then YOU my friend, are ALSO a rapist.
32. Women do not owe you sex.
33. Buying her dinner does not entitle you to sex.
34. Paying her mortgage does not entitle you to sex.
35. Buying her clothing does not entitle you to sex.
36. Buying her lingerie does not entitle you to sex. It also doesn’t mean that she has any obligation to wear that lingerie around you.
37. Spending any amount of money on her does not, ever, entitle you to sex.
38. Seeing her legs or cleavage does not entitle you to sex.
39. If she ‘turns you on’ you’re not entitled to sex.
40. If she has fucked every man in a 10 square mile radius and she doesn’t want to fuck you and you have sex with her anyway, then you’re a rapist.
41. Her clothing is not a reason for you to rape her. Her LACK of clothing is no reason to rape her. If she’s wearing a thong and pasties you STILL have no right to rape her.
42. If she’s a prostitute and she says “No” then you’re a rapist.
43. If she’s a stripper and she says “No” then you’re a rapist. Likewise, if she’s a stripper and she’s been rubbing against your dick all night long and you follow her to her car and have sex with her against her will then you are ALSO a rapist.
44. If you watch a woman being raped without calling the authorities then you’re as bad as a rapist and you may also be a rapist yourself.
45. If you don’t fight rape then you accept rape.
46. If you don’t believe a woman when she says she was raped then you’re encouraging rape.
47. If you choose to remain friends with a man who raped a woman you are encouraging rape.
48. If you confess to the authorities that you raped a woman it does not exonerate you. You are not suddenly a model of good behavior.
49. If you ‘only’ raped one woman, you’re STILL a rapist.
50. You cannot tell who is a rapist by the way they look. Rapists are your friends, your brothers, your fathers and you won’t know it.
51. Do not get frustrated with a woman if she doesn’t trust you. SHE already knows that rapists don’t wear signs on their foreheads. Something you think is innocuous SHE may find terrifying.
THE RAPIST CHECKLIST
Some things to remember…
1. You are a rapist if you get a girl drunk and have sex with her.
2. You are a rapist if you find a drunk girl and have sex with her.
3. You are a rapist if you get yourself drunk and have sex with her. Your drunkeness is no excuse.
4. If you are BOTH drunk you may still be a rapist.
5. If she’s alternating between puking her guts out and passing out in the bed then you’re a rapist.
6. If she’s sleeping and you have sex with her you’re a rapist.
7. If she’s unconscious and you have sex with her then you’re a rapist.
8. If she’s taking sleeping pills and doesn’t wake up when you have sex with her then you’re a rapist.
9. If she is incapacitated in any way and unable to say ‘Yes’ then you’re a rapist.
10. If you drug her then you’re a rapist.
11. If you find a drugged girl and have sex with her then you’re a rapist.
12. If you don’t bother to ask her permission and she says neither ‘Yes’ or ‘No’ then you could be a rapist.
13. You are a rapist if you ‘nag’ her for sex. Because you manage to ply an eventual ‘yes’ from a weary victim doesn’t mean it’s not rape. You are a rapist.
14. You are a rapist if you try to circumvent her “No” by talking her into it. She’s not playing hard to get, and, even if she IS it’s not YOUR responsibility to ‘get’ her. You’re still a rapist.
15. You are a rapist if you manipulate her into sex when she doesn’t otherwise want it. If you say, “If you loved me you’d do X” then you’re a rapist. If you say, “All the other kids are doing it!” then you’re a rapist.
16. If you threaten her, or act in a way that SHE thinks you’re threatening her then you’re a rapist. If you puff up and get loud and frustrated while trying to ‘talk’ her into sex then you’re a rapist.
17. You are a rapist if you don’t immediately get your hands off of her when she says ‘no’. You are a rapist if you take your hands off of her and then put them back ON her after 10 minutes and she eventually ‘gives in’ to this tactic.
18. You are a rapist if you won’t let her sleep peacefully without waking her every 15 minutes asking her for sex. Sleep depravation is a form of torture and YOU are a rapist.
19. If you’re necking with her and you’re naked and you’ve already gone down on her and she says ‘No’ to sex with you and you have sex with her anyway then you’re a rapist.
20. If you’re engaged in intercourse and she says ‘No’ at ANY point and you don’t immediately stop then you’re a rapist.
21. If she said “Yes” to sex with a condom and that condom breaks and you proceed anyway then you’re a rapist.
22. If she picked you up at a bar looking for sex and then decides that she doesn’t WANT sex and you continue then you’re a rapist.
23. If she changes her mind at ANY point for ANY reason and you don’t immediately back off or you try to talk her into it and get sex anyway then you’re a rapist.
24. If you don’t hit her and she says ‘No’ you’re still a rapist.
25. If you don’t have a knife or a gun or a garrote and she says ‘No’ then you’re still a rapist.
26. If you’re a friend of hers you can still be a rapist.
27. If you had sex with her the night before but she doesn’t want morning sex and you pressure her for it anyway then you’re a rapist.
28. If you’re her husband you can still be a rapist.
29. If it’s your wedding night and she doesn’t WANT to have sex with you and you force or coerce her anyway then you’re a rapist.
30. If she’s had sex with you hundreds of times before but doesn’t want to on the 101st time then you’re a rapist.
31. If you penetrate her anally, orally or digitally against her will then YOU my friend, are ALSO a rapist.
32. Women do not owe you sex.
33. Buying her dinner does not entitle you to sex.
34. Paying her mortgage does not entitle you to sex.
35. Buying her clothing does not entitle you to sex.
36. Buying her lingerie does not entitle you to sex. It also doesn’t mean that she has any obligation to wear that lingerie around you.
37. Spending any amount of money on her does not, ever, entitle you to sex.
38. Seeing her legs or cleavage does not entitle you to sex.
39. If she ‘turns you on’ you’re not entitled to sex.
40. If she has fucked every man in a 10 square mile radius and she doesn’t want to fuck you and you have sex with her anyway, then you’re a rapist.
41. Her clothing is not a reason for you to rape her. Her LACK of clothing is no reason to rape her. If she’s wearing a thong and pasties you STILL have no right to rape her.
42. If she’s a prostitute and she says “No” then you’re a rapist.
43. If she’s a stripper and she says “No” then you’re a rapist. Likewise, if she’s a stripper and she’s been rubbing against your dick all night long and you follow her to her car and have sex with her against her will then you are ALSO a rapist.
44. If you watch a woman being raped without calling the authorities then you’re as bad as a rapist and you may also be a rapist yourself.
45. If you don’t fight rape then you accept rape.
46. If you don’t believe a woman when she says she was raped then you’re encouraging rape.
47. If you choose to remain friends with a man who raped a woman you are encouraging rape.
48. If you confess to the authorities that you raped a woman it does not exonerate you. You are not suddenly a model of good behavior.
49. If you ‘only’ raped one woman, you’re STILL a rapist.
50. You cannot tell who is a rapist by the way they look. Rapists are your friends, your brothers, your fathers and you won’t know it.
51. Do not get frustrated with a woman if she doesn’t trust you. SHE already knows that rapists don’t wear signs on their foreheads. Something you think is innocuous SHE may find terrifying.
posted by Fire Witch at 6:30 PM
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Why not just shorten this into 2 items:
1. If a man has sex with a woman, the man is a rapist. Automatically. No question asked.
2. Men are never allowed to have sex with women.
Much easier, less confusion.
Oh, poor baby.
Was it too hard to walk and chew gum at the same time?
What men like you call "sex" is rape. No wonder women don't want to have "sex" with you.
Fucker.
Almost but not quite.. I am not a man.
Then immediately apply Andrea Dworkin's RIGHT WING WOMEN. After that, go for WOMAN HATING.
"Girl" you seriously need to get up off your knees and de-colonize.
I know this might come as a shock, but I didn't actually criticize that list. Rather the message it was sending. Just look at the subject! And some of the things on the list! No wonder men think that us women just try to "stomp their balls".
The things on that list are basic things. But the way it's written sends a message that "all men are rapist unless shown otherwise". It would get a lot better response if it wouldn't be so provocative and would not be seen as attempt to be a way to tag people as rapists.
Hope this clarifies a bit what I was trying to tell you.
The list is just fine as it is.
Rapists need to know that women ARE ready to stomp their balls.
Looking forward to it in fact.
We women have been far too nice to rapists. All men ARE potentially rapists until proven otherwise. Rapist don't wear signs on their foreheads warning us in advance.
It's just like with Anglos (which I am). We are not allies until proven otherwise. I am perfectly comfortable with that and understand why people of color would need to be self-protective when meeting me for the first time - and perhaps for a long time thereafter. I ain't no thin-skinned, white girl whiner looking for a handout from people who have already been exploited enough.
Your criticism of the list is pointless. You strike me as an apologist for rapists. So I will say it loud and proud: Stomp, stomp, stomp the fuckers' balls!!!! Kick their pricks and never forget: Dead men don't rape.
And on that happy note - the comments section is now closed.
Write me privately if you have more to say.
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Damn, fool. Put that dead baby bird back in your pants and quit wagging it at me.
But thanks for driving the ratings for this post way on up to the top of the Google ratings.
What a joke.
Fire witch, two things really scare me about your post.
That the women who exist in your rules are not capable of behaving responsibly (getting debilitatingly drunk with untrustable people, staying with a guy who keeps asking them for sex and eventually giving in instead of finding a safe environment), and that these rules are clearly made for the one group of people (not men, by the way) who don't need them -- The people that have no ethics in the first place.
So you can imagine why some of us men might get our hackles up. If I replace all the instances of rape with (beat a man and steal his money) and replace the word 'man' with 'an ethnic minority' this would qualify as a hate rant - It suggests sneakily that these rules are something most men can't figure out and they're barbaric retards who need you to let them know this.
The checklist is designed to benefit women and warn fuckers that we women are on the alert for your rapist behavior.
The checklist centers women and our priorities over rapist men and their desires for violence against us. WE are the priority. YOU are the problem.
Consider yourself warned.
Thank you for this list! A woman read it at the UCLA Take Back the Night rally and I thought it was marvelous!
Sorry for the delay in publishing your comment, Lady Madonna.
That's awesome to hear the list was read to the Take Back The Night warriors. The rapist checklist post is one of the most popular this site has ever published. Here's to hoping it gets more and more exposure.
Cheers, for your comment.
Um, so a woman can't commit rape? And a guy can't be genuinely confused by the signals a girl sends? Not everything with a penis is evil and out to get us.
I mean, my God. You say that all men are potential rapists? What about the guys who would never do that? I grew up around guys, and none of them would ever have even entertained the idea of rape, even for a moment.
And for the record, just because it has a vagina doesn't mean it's good. What about the girls who cry rape when they consented? What if she gets him drunk and sleeps with him? Both of which, by the way, happened in my town recently. And I even live in a city with very little crime.
Although I somehow doubt this comment will be published...
Boy, you non-females don't waste a nano-second trying to put yourselves back in the center of the sufferers' spotlight, do you?
Me, me, me, me. Now back to me, says the non-female, ad nauseum.
The point of the rapist checklist is women's trauma, which astronomically outstrips the sexual trauma men can and do face. I suggest you get together with some men and form a support group and start agitating with your brothers for an end to all sexualized violence. When you have shown that you can successfully defend the female in you (which patriarchy tries to drive out), then you may join us feminists as allies against rape.
But not a nano-second before then, dude. Do your own pain work! And stop barking and whining at me like some kind of cringing, spoiled dog.
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